In my last post I shared that my most recent personal dating philosophy was 90% of males are assholes, 4% are whiners and who you need to be on the lookout for are the 6% for the reasons stated here The-6-ers.
But, I realized as I finished the post and as I embarked on a weekend with several dates and some major misunderstandings that my 90% asshole guideline might be off by, I don’t know, 40%. It was a good rule to go by at the time, but, it’s a little harsh.
What I learned while I was out an about relating to the guys this weekend is that 1) I bring out the asshole in a lot of men… I won’t get into this now, but, I’m pretty certain that will prove to be true, as I’m a pretty pissed off Diva and 2) The more I just accept myself and not try to be ‘something’ that the man would like… why do I do that anyway… the more the chips fall where they fall and suddenly the guy isn’t an asshole. He’s just as big a mess as I am… Lol. And that, has nothing to do with me. A lot of times guys won’t ask for help with their stuff, they’ll just belittle you to make themselves feel better. Somewhere along the line I started doing that too.
If I don’t have to be perfect, they can be fun and enjoyable as whatever they are, and consequently, we’re both free to like each other for what were are or not. I personally have not met two men that were alike. They are each very different as I’m not ‘like every other woman out there’. Get to know me for who I am, not what you need from a woman. I am gonna to do the same this week.
Having been single longer than not, and having dated many fine men young and a few older I can say that right you are about the 6% rule. I believe we as responsible man lovers we can up that to mmmmaybe 8% with some “no that does not work for me however if you do this”….you will be well rewarded. They good ones value a woman who knows what she wants and can communicate in positive tone.